The odd of celebrating days

It is an odd thing we do when we single out a subgroup and celebrate days. Not wrong but odd. There is never going to be a day for those who don't fit the categories.

I don't hate the days... We ought to celebrate people. 

Mothers, fathers, lovers, veterans, these are all examples of people we should celebrate.  Birthdays are a tailored made celebration of living, at least we all have that... ( And if you want to argue that you don't... You can leave a reply lol)

Happy Mother's Day..

Tho this is not really a post about that either. 

No I'm feeling out of it because I am not a mother. Not by choice. I don't talk about things very often, I don't think my life or marriage has suffered any for not having kids, but the reality is we can't have kids.  It's complicated, but that will do for now. It's not just Mother's Day where the idea of being married without kids is  kind of hard for people to comprehend I am no social anomaly but I certainly do not fit within categories we tend to apply, I'm not single, I'm not a young adult, I'm not elderly, I don't work, and worse than not working, I am on disability. For some reason, being disabled and still able to 80% of the time function cognitively puts me in a position where because I do not fit in, I miss out.

I suffer from depression as well as all that, and you can imagine it makes things tricky.

I don't have a solution. I have no idea what to do, but if you are like me, you realise other people might need to be seen, noticed and appreciated. Random act for someone... A smile, a meeting of the eyes...  Even the little things count.

If you somehow stand in the same position as me, and don't fit into the neat categories, you might be happy to know you are not alone. 

This is my Stove...

It has seen better days, it really is yellowish beige, and really hard to clean. It is circa 1970's or 1980's.

Here it is:

Not glamorous I know.

Here is what I realised today though as I cleaned it.

I'm lucky to have a stove.. And by extension a house.

I'm lucky there is no threat we might lose it. Even when money is tight. It is ours.

I know that being happy with what you have is a strange thing... Especially when cleaning a stove. 

I am trying to not to hibernate this winter though with all the bad stuff going on in the world it would be a nice thought at least. While I am no where near the position to help people,  neither with physical or finances, I can be greatful for what I have. To stop and look around me once in Aka while and realise how much riches are actually there.

I do need a new stove. Someday. 

But for now I'm greatful to have one that works, and also that we have the access to gas to power it. 

I'm greatful that I have my home, my great husband, and my space. 

It isn't a revolutionary ideal, but just take a moment and look around you, even if you are finances poor, and even if your health isn't awesome... There is so much to be greatful for, even if it is just a working stove.